Finding Healing In A Broken Marriage

Posted by on Sep 9, 2014 in Blog | 5 comments

Finding Healing In A Broken Marriage

By Jennifer Smith, Founder of

Brokenness is described differently for each of us based on our experiences.

But the truth is that we all have experienced, or will experience it, at some point in life.

Brokenness is never easy to endure, but I believe God can heal us of our brokenness, and use it, no matter what “it” is, for something good.

For years, I tried to hide my brokenness.

It seemed easier to bottle up my brokenness and avoid it at all costs. To be honest, I didn’t really know how to confront it.

My husband and I suffered in the early part of our marriage. For almost four years, we felt alone and isolated in our marital issue, believing we were the only ones suffering in such a way. Our relationship was falling apart. In my frustration, I turned my back on God, angry that He would allow us to endure such hardship. My insecurities and my sin grew out of control.

Yet, despite my rebellion and despite our flaws, God never abandoned us. In fact, He utilized this lowly life season to teach more about who He is. He forgave me for my behavior and gave me a gracious husband who was not willing to give up completely on us.

I never would have experienced this powerful moment and I would never understand the depths of grace, if I were never broken.

I turned my heart back toward God in my brokenness and asked Him to help me.

As I embraced an intimate relationship with Him, He unveiled me and I could finally see my husband, my God, and myself more clearly.

God was transforming me and He still is in so many ways.

“But whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away. Now the Lord is the Spirit, and where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom. And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.” 2 Corinthians 3:16-18 (NIV).

When we turn to the Lord, we experience freedom and transformation, reconciliation, restoration and redemption.

Being unveiled is about being real and transparent in relationships, even when it is awkward or difficult, even when fear tells us to hide.

It was in that intimate time with The Lord when I turned to Him, that I learned to confront my brokenness and receive healing in my life and in my marriage. The message of “The Unveiled Wife” is about embracing intimacy with God and allowing Him to transform us into His image.

Over time, I became a better wife filled with hope for our future. And we were healed! Now I have the privilege of sharing the testimony of our healing to encourage others and glorify God. The Lord definitely took my brokenness and made my life amazingly beautiful!

I urge you to trust Him to do the same with you!

Join Gap Gals Ministry for Unite, where Jennifer Smith will continue this discussion of how God used her brokenness to show her the beauty of His love and reconciliation. Unite is a Free women’s event, on Monday, September 15, 2014 at 6:30 p.m. at Corona Friends Church.

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